Giving Advice

“What’s the best way to prepare for chemistry tests?,” asked John to his older brother. “Study a lot” was the response. How helpful was this advice? Not very helpful.

When you mentor someone, you need to be very specific in the guidance you give. Here are some guidelines you can use:

1. Ask the person you are advising to write down what you will be advising them to do.
2. When you give advice, try to always give guidance on the following:
   • What should the person do? Here are some examples of what John’s brother could have advised:
     • Find old tests to study from.
     • Study 2 hours a day/5 days a week.
     • Attend the test review session.
   • When should the “what” be done? Here are examples of what could have been advised:
     • Wake up and study 2 hours before classes when your mind is the freshest.
     • Start at least one week in advance.
   • How should the person put your advice to use? Here are examples of what could have been advised:
     • Ask your teachers if there are any practice tests available.
     • Find a study partner who will keep you honest about getting up early to study.
3. Once you have finished giving your advisee the guidance, set a reminder in your phone to make sure that the advice was followed. Second, it gives you a sense of how helpful your advice was.

One of the most enjoyable aspects of being a mentor is seeing your advice being useful. You will only see that if you provide practical guidance.