Dealing with a Breakup in College
A breakup in college can be pretty painful. It is also very likely that it will happen if you have been dating the person since high school. There are many ways to deal with a break up in college. Outlined in this section is some advice based upon students who have gone through this experience.
Do not just sit in your room and sulk. It will not help you at all. Going out and doing something with your friends helps a lot. If you aren’t going out with friends, do something to keep you busy. Doing homework will put your mind on a different subject, so it helps with dealing with pain. Also, going to the gym and staying active will help a lot. It is good to stay in shape while giving your mind a break. If you have a job, you should request more hours so you are forced to leave your room and do something else to give your mind a break from thinking about the breakup.
The first thing you need to do is to take some time off from talking to each other. If you continue to talk with your ex, it will hurt even more. Talking with each other like you used to will hurt you even more. If you continue talking like you did while dating, you will get your hopes up that you will get back together. When you don’t, the pain will last even longer. It’s hard to stop talking to your ex, but it will make things so much easier if you do. If you breakup but continue to be friends, make sure your ex knows that you need some time off from talking to them.
Another thing that can help is having good friends that will support you. Sometimes you want to share what you are feeling and just vent to your friends. Venting is a lot better than sitting by yourself, thinking about it and crying. Your friends will end up being a big help, but make sure that the breakup isn’t all that you talk about. If all you talk about is the breakup, you may find yourself losing friends because that is not all they want to hear. Making a study group with them will also help. This way you get studying in, and it takes your mind off everything that has happened.
When dealing with a breakup, you may want to be by yourself and cry the feelings away, but that won’t help. There are many ways to deal with a breakup. Go out, have fun, do homework, take some time off, and vent to friends or a counselor are some good way of dealing with a breakup.
The one good thing about a campus is that there are lots of other possibilities. Most college students find the pain of a bad breakup will quickly evaporate as they become open to these possibilities..