Learning How to Communicate With Your Parents About Your Grades
Your parents only want what’s best for you. If you’re struggling in school don’t be afraid to tell them. Sure they may be disappointed, and they may even get mad, but they aren’t going to kill you. They aren’t going to take you out of school. They’ll almost always want to help you, because they want you to be successful.
Never lie. Lying makes it worse. Everyone gets a bad grade every once and a while. Sometimes the test was harder then you thought, or you didn’t get enough sleep etc. Just don’t come up with excuses when you get a bad grade or don’t do your work. If you lie, your parents will only get more upset, not only because they are disappointed that you lied to them. But as parents they are upset and concerned as to why you couldn’t tell them the truth in the first place.
Your parents want you to succeed, but it’s your decision to be successful. Don’t argue with your parents if they want to know your grades. If you’re having problems telling your parents about your grades, you could do a number of things.
First, you can make an Excel spreadsheet that consists of your grades. You can send it to them and update each week as you receive more grades. Then when you call them to catch up, you can talk about the grades. This will also help you get more organized with your grades and realize where you stand during the semester.
Another strategy is to just give them your campus account and password and have them check the grades for themselves. The problem with this however is not all of your professors will post their grades for every grade they hand back. It will still make it easier to discuss your grades with your parents. But be careful, this will also give them access to your emails.
You should also try and schedule a time every week when your parents are free and you can talk to them about your grades. Devote a good 30 minutes to an hour of not only discussing your grades but catching up with them on how things are going at home. Don’t make the conversation just about grades.
Whenever you report on a bad grade, have a strategy for recovering from the bad grade. Let your parents know, you are being proactive about you grades.
The best thing you can do to talk about your grades with your parents is just to do well in your classes and do well in school. If you do well in school it won’t be hard to tell your parents you have A’s in all your classes. In general just be honest with your parents and try to communicate with them more. The more you communicate the better they will feel about your schoolwork and the better you’ll feel about telling them..